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Codependent dating a bpd

With the help of a friend who is a recovered borderline, I have since also come to the conclusion that these relationships are matches made in hell. He becomes convinced that she is simply mistaken about his intentions. Risky, potentially self-damaging impulsivity in at least two areas e. Because he knows better than to trust on face value, he will be much more likely to cut his losses when he discovers her true nature. He was notified by a neighbor friend that I had been taken to the hospital and showed up.

What you see is their norm. These minor betrayals over agreements to make each other feel safe in the relationship and to keep things fair for both people are at the heart of most of our everyday arguments.

We lived in a bubble and as time went on became more and more emotionally dependent on each other - even during the fights. It is affecting us both in different ways and very negatively. They are hyper sensitive to emotions and have never learned to regulate or stabilize their emotions. It was interesting to watch him defend this behavior. What they tend to overlook is the fact that betrayal happens on a much more subtle level every day in all of our relationships.

Codependents quickly and easily latch onto borderlines because they really do have a history of trauma and problems. They are not held accountable for their actions especially when they are in a relationship with the codependent. Their focus and commitment to their relationship keeps them on the straight and narrow.

It is affecting

Codependents and Borderline Personality Disorder. The negative enabling occurs because of the selfish motives.

Robert Glover wrote a book about the so called nice guy. This is often not the end of the story for the nice guy. If you like drama, excitement, and intensity, enjoy the ride, because things will never be calm. People are still attempting to have a codependent relationship.

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