Of course, it's not just me

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Even if that help had panned out I was and still am somewhat conflicted about whether or not I want to leave the sex industry. Of course, it's not just me. All I had gotten in the end were cupcakes and the very occasional gift card for Safeway, nothing to help me move forward and start a new job. In case you were wondering, my Patreon patrons all switched over and rent got paid.

But the help never came, and I discovered that Solace had fallen apart with rumors of fraud following in its wake. When payment processors can dictate morality, that's a scary road to walk down. Solace promised to help me with my resume, get me interview clothes, advise me on applying for jobs when my primary work was adult in nature. Rent is rising in many major cities. It was great for the first few months.

These businesses aren't targeted the way

But it's adult companies that get this treatment, time and time again. Even if hired, I could be subsequently fired for having been in porn or written about dildos. We simply had to take action to avoid a situation where creators would lose hundreds of thousands of dollars of legitimate pledges. PayPal and WePay are not required to give answers as to why they freeze or shut down accounts, but often all that's required is the history or even the suspicion of sex work. And I could always write about my experiences.

And Square has banned Courtney Trouble for life, even though they were using it for non-porn purposes, because their Google search uncovered that Courtney is a porn producer. They worked around the clock responding to my panicked emails. Andre Shakti found herself in similarly hot water in March for crowdfunding travel costs using Fundly to make it to the Feminist Porn Awards and Conference. Guess PayPal just lost out on the fees for all those transactions.

Our economy is pretty terrible

Our economy is pretty terrible right now. These businesses aren't targeted the way adult performers are. It encouraged me to work harder on my writing, and was, for the first time, a viable alternative to sex work. Yet, we live in a culture that brands us permanently for dipping a toe into sex work while simultaneously insisting sex workers should leave the industry and do other work.